Losing a Wife
On the walls are objects and references to her and to their relationship, many of which point to the in-jokes they shared: the last crossword puzzle they did together but never completed, the ukulele she’d taken up but never learnt to play, a ‘colour-in’ canvas she’d bought for an art project but never got around to filling in. These and other odes to the little hobbies and projects she left unfinished are enshrined both lovingly and humorously in the room. Perhaps because humour was a big part of their relationship, but perhaps, also, because the projects they represent are incomplete and therefore comforting. Death hasn’t ended them, they leave open the feeling of something ongoing, of a possible return. They certainly seem to be the opposite of the framed photograph that, he worries, ‘freezes’ the person and 'fixes' the memory.